Black Dominican. 19. LGBTQ activist. Survivor of mulitiple sexual assaults. Queer. Gender Fluid. Drag King. Opera singer. Sex Positive. Body Positive. Kinky. AB/DL. Artist. Polyamorous lover. Mega anixety issues so it might take me forever to respond to anything. NYC. Living for the revolution!!
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I know my tumblr name is mega heteronormitive but dont be fooled there is nothing of that sort happening here! My 10 year old sister calls me her superhero, Rainbowtastica <3
This thought has been troubling me the whole train ride home. All of my life I’ve been super fem and all of my family members would always say to me “karen your so girly.” Today I asked two friends if they see me as fem and they said they didn’t at all. The reason this topic came up is because we were discussing our FIERCE crushes and my two friends said that FIERCE needed more fem girls.
I realize that now because I dress kind of androgynous and occasionally dress as a drag king I might not appear to be too feminine at first glance. I guess the reason why this troubles me so much that people think this is because in all of my relationships I actually prefer to be the girl in the relationship. I CANT STAND BEING THE GUY OR THE TOP in a relationship and I want people to be aware of that before they get romantically involved with me.
I once dated a girl who was a total bottom. she was also kind of a pillow princess. I COULDN’T STAND BEING WITH HER! during the whole time we engaged in sexual activity i kept thinking “WHEN IS IT GONNA BE MY TURN????” she never gave me my turn and even though i thought she was super beautiful and i obsessed about her for a whole school year when this happened all of my feelings for her just completely disappeared. I consider myself a verse but if i had to choose between top or bottom I’d have to choose bottom.